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@Dollywitch: I know it's hard, but there's just no other way. You must keep going. Relax. Please just breathe in and breathe out. Try to focus on relaxing, think only on your muscle and relax. If you can, open the window and let fresh air in. I don't know how much you're able to do now, but it helps if you take a bath with warm water. Open some relaxing music. Relaxing music. Not the techno or rock or hip hop. Just the nature kind of music. I read in some sources that it's wave could help to relax your nerve and brain. Try to focus on something else that will make you relax, don't think of anything unnecessary.

I'm not a pro, I'm not someone who can feel your pain. But let me tell you that I care. It's past 2 in the morning here, and I just want to post this for you.

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Uggh, I can't seem to get any writing done for my VNs. During finals I couldn't stop writing, and now that I've got free time, I can't seem to just sit down and do it.

It's frustrating me to the point that I actually feel tense physically. I need a creative outlet, but it just ain't happening.

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I'm the exact same way! While I was stressing for my AP exams I got over 20,000 words done on a writing commission and now that I'm not pressed for time anymore, I can't get myself to work at all! It's so annoying! I feel like I'm forcing myself to write when before I did it to relieve stress >,> No wonder Sylvia Plath put her head in an oven and got into car crashes on purpose to get inspiration to write her poetry... Real life with no stress is so boring! <- Not saying that suicide attempts are the way to cope... She admitted that pain made her "feel alive" when writing so I'm just referencing that ^^'

I've been using the website Write or Die lately... It's the only thing that's making it possible to edit my scripts without getting distracted >,<

Oooh, I've gotta give that Write or Die thing a try... XD

Man, I'm glad I'm not alone in this. XD

I seem to procrastinate on any task I'm set out to do, even if it's something I really want to do. I'm having the same problem getting an AMV done; I've got a good five unfinished projects. My next contest is in November, and after winning first place last year, I really want to get it this year... ;__;

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Since I'm the same way, I'll share my personal observations and maybe we can think of a way to outwit ourselves.

1. The task that has the highest priority is nearly ALWAYS less desirable than the lower-priority task. It doesn't matter what it is. If I have several different homework assignments, the one that's due in a week is more relaxing and fun to work on than the one that's due tomorrow. If I have to get a CG done in a week, I want to work on a CG I have no deadline for.

2. Despite being less fun to work on, projects with a deadline are always easier to finish than those with no deadline. I may be muttering and complaining under my breath the ENTIRE time I'm writing a paper, but chances are I will finish the paper even if I have to sit for hours until I'm finished. And I will feel a sense of accomplishment, even if it isn't perfect, because I met the deadline. With projects that have no deadline, I have to get my sense of accomplishment from making it as perfect as possible instead. And since I'm always getting better at what I do, and I can't write an entire novel in a day, I always look back and am not satisfied.

3. For me, self-motivation must be higher than peer pressure. With homework and assignments, my classmates don't care if I don't get them done. The teacher doesn't care if I don't get them done. But I care, because I want to get an A in the class, so I have ample self-motivation to work on those projects. With stories or artwork, it's dangerous for me to post them until they are nearly complete, because the minute I begin to feel that people are pressuring me to work on them, I lose the feeling of enjoyment I get from working on them and instead feel trapped into pleasing others. It generally leads to a "Screw them, I don't want to do this!" attitude even though most of the "pressure" is probably just in my head. (It worked this way in school too - working in a group where the group was depending on my contribution made me feel bitter and resentful, like I was being used, . But I have happily done projects that require WAY more work by myself.)

TL;DR: I am contrary and need reverse psychology to get motivated. If you ask nicely I will have the hardest time getting something done for you, but if I think you're doubting my capability I will make it my goal to prove you wrong.

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"It is [the writer's] privilege to help man endure by lifting his heart,
by reminding him of the courage and honor and hope and pride
and compassion and pity and sacrifice which have been the glory of his past."
— William Faulkner

My ex wife divorced me (her parents played a large role in that).
Now after 2 years I finally found the one girl who hopefully is really the right one and yesterday I proposed to her and she said yes! But today she tells me that she doesn't want to marry me until 2017!

And now I am like... forget it... i should try and become gay, cause men I can understand, but i will never understand women

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I'm the same, but on a daily basis.
At work I can pull my phone out and type away continually.
Once I get home, with all the time in the world, all the ideas disappear.

I feel your pain and I hope she comes around and everything works out for you both. My boyfriend of 8 years and fiance of one just dumped me. Didn't even have the decency to look me in the face when he broke my heart. Just called me at work during his lunch break saying he can't do it anymore. I had no warning at all. Needless to say I'm pissed, crushed and confused. I am so done with men and am dreading when I have to go pick up my stuff from his house. This will not be an enjoyable weekend.

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Honestly, I think he owes you a bit more of an explanation than that, King. Me, I can't envision throwing away that large of an investment in time and emotional connection (never mind completely crushing the other person) without a damned good reason. Even then, he owes you that closure.

Der Tor: There's a reason behind her timetable too, and it needs exploring before committing anything else. Won't hurt to ask.

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I'm going to get off my soap-box now, and let you get back to your day.

Academy Daze- Demo pending
Knights of Chaos: Ghost- Coding underway
DevBlog: http://www.renaigames.net
Troubleshooter Tales: Childhood's End (story) http://www.knightschaos.com

(posted in the wrong thread, my bad.... >_>)

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I can't either. We've been through thick and thin. I've always had his back and supported him and now he turns around an treated me like I'm nothing...You're right. He does owe me an explanation and I should have demanded one from him then and there. But I was at work (I do childcare) so I was trying my best to keep it together in front of the kids. Plus I'm the type that likes to think before I speak to be as clear as possible to understand but I froze. It was just so out of the blue that I literally didn't know what to say when it happened. We had just seen each other the past weekend and had a wonderful time. We talk on the phone every day. So to hear that he's tired of being with me...It all made no sense. One thing he did mention was that our goals weren't compatible. I don't want much out of life: a nice home, great paying job, and to do my art for a living. But he said those goals weren't good enough.That he couldn't be with someone like me, a person without ambition. Pisses me off just thinking about it. My dreams are my own, what concern are they to him?
As painful and scary as it might be I want to sit down with him and talk about what's really going on. If he wants to walk away then fine, but after all the years we spent together I thought he'd at least have the decency to tell me that to my face than leave things as they are now. As much as it kills me to say it, I do still love him but at this point I don't think I can trust him ever again. He's done too much to hurt me. Maybe be can be friends one day but for now... I just want to know the truth. When I go pick up my stuff from his house I'll try to talk to him and hopefully find some closure. If not then I'll have even more drama to get off my chest.

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Yeah I think so to.

To be honest that's a fear of mine that I'm going to waste the prime of my life(my 20s) on someone and it ends up going nowhere. ._. I totally get why some girls want commitment so fast now.

I'm in the editing phase of my script and I'm just going in circles. I feel bad because this is the millionth time i've chipped away at it and it's hardly improved.

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If you want a shoulder that knows what it's like, you know where the PM button is. I've got a few horror stories myself.

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I'm going to get off my soap-box now, and let you get back to your day.

Academy Daze- Demo pending
Knights of Chaos: Ghost- Coding underway
DevBlog: http://www.renaigames.net
Troubleshooter Tales: Childhood's End (story) http://www.knightschaos.com

Now that I read your comment I think age may have been a factor in his sudden need to want to end things. He just turned 26 last week and we were together throughout our 20s. Maybe he subconsciously wants to get out there while he's still young. I don't know. But if anyone should be mad it should be me. There are a lot more ladies attracted to older men than young guys to older women.

Best of luck with your script though. Writing is not one of my strong points so I know what it's like to struggle with it.



Thanks for the offer. Depending how it goes tomorrow I just might take you up on that. I haven't broken the news to anyone I know yet. So it'll be good for me to talk to someone about it. I just need some time to process through my emotions so that I can explain what happened without bursting into tears. I've had other relationships before but this one was the longest running and most serious of them all. I really thought he was the one...but apparently he didn't feel the same way about me...

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I hope it goes well for you, King.

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I'm going to get off my soap-box now, and let you get back to your day.

Academy Daze- Demo pending
Knights of Chaos: Ghost- Coding underway
DevBlog: http://www.renaigames.net
Troubleshooter Tales: Childhood's End (story) http://www.knightschaos.com