Get that thing off your chest... Now...

[mugenjohncel]

Just returned from the land of the dead... OK it's actually more lamer than that. Just waked up a few hours ago ad I was informed that I was out for like nearly 2 weeks after I fall while attempting to try and walk upright again... it seems I'll be forever bound to the chair... ON THE BRIGHT SIDE! I'm STILL ALIVE and will most likely be able to witness the Pluto Flyby...

My inbox is full, I need to PM Bunbun and the others on Twitter... but what did I missed while I'm knocked out cold?...

"POOF" (Disappears)

[noctos]

Just returned from the land of the dead... OK it's actually more lamer than that. Just waked up a few hours ago ad I was informed that I was out for like nearly 2 weeks after I fall while attempting to try and walk upright again... it seems I'll be forever bound to the chair... ON THE BRIGHT SIDE! I'm STILL ALIVE and will most likely be able to witness the Pluto Flyby...

My inbox is full, I need to PM Bunbun and the others on Twitter... but what did I missed while I'm knocked out cold?...

"POOF" (Disappears)

Goodness! That sounds awful I'm glad you made it, and I hope you recover well!

I just spoke with my friend who lives in the city I want to move to, and it got me really down. She applied for a student apartment last year, and she didn't get one until October. I've been trying to feel optimistic about my own application process, but now I have doubts. What do I do if I'm accepted to my university of choice, but I don't have a place to live? I can't exactly couch surf at my friends' for two to three months until I get an apartment. I don't want to have to decline the school offer because of this!

I decided to search around on the private market as well, but it's making me feel even worse. The prices are sky-high, and out of 4000 ads, only 14 allowed pets. When the student loan grants me a meager 7000 NOK, how am I supposed to pay an 8500 rent fee? No matter how you look at it, it just doesn't add up. My plan is to let the cats stay at my parents' while I search for an apartment that allows them, but it's looking pretty bleak right now. In addition to all that, if I DO happen to find an apartment that might work, I still have to travel all the way down there (seven hours by train, two by flight) and look at the place. There's no way that's happening while I work full time this summer.

Will I have to sacrifice my education of choice because of this...? (The university in my area does not offer the degree I want.)

I feel so lost and sad.

[AshenhartKrie]

I just spoke with my friend who lives in the city I want to move to, and it got me really down. She applied for a student apartment last year, and she didn't get one until October. I've been trying to feel optimistic about my own application process, but now I have doubts. What do I do if I'm accepted to my university of choice, but I don't have a place to live? I can't exactly couch surf at my friends' for two to three months until I get an apartment. I don't want to have to decline the school offer because of this!

I decided to search around on the private market as well, but it's making me feel even worse. The prices are sky-high, and out of 4000 ads, only 14 allowed pets. When the student loan grants me a meager 7000 NOK, how am I supposed to pay an 8500 rent fee? No matter how you look at it, it just doesn't add up. My plan is to let the cats stay at my parents' while I search for an apartment that allows them, but it's looking pretty bleak right now. In addition to all that, if I DO happen to find an apartment that might work, I still have to travel all the way down there (seven hours by train, two by flight) and look at the place. There's no way that's happening while I work full time this summer.

Will I have to sacrifice my education of choice because of this...? (The university in my area does not offer the degree I want.)

I feel so lost and sad.

Can you do the degree by distance education? Or online?


Mostly I've been so stressed with school that I've been having breakdowns almost every second day. Most of my free time goes into roleplaying with a friend so that I don't freak out over assignments (dumbest idea ever, I end up not doing them).
The problem? There's a lot of chemistry between certain characters, right? And we both jokingly ship them because why not. Only, I think I have feelings for the person I RP with, and lovey-dovey romance (or romantic things in general) make me feel horrible. Not because I'm repulsed by it, just because it feels like a personal slap in the face saying 'hah the only time you'll have this is when it's PRETEND' so it's this weird tangled mess and I don't have the energy to sort it out, or the confidence to address that with them, so it's just... getting even more convoluted.

[Reikun]

I just spoke with my friend who lives in the city I want to move to, and it got me really down. She applied for a student apartment last year, and she didn't get one until October. I've been trying to feel optimistic about my own application process, but now I have doubts. What do I do if I'm accepted to my university of choice, but I don't have a place to live? I can't exactly couch surf at my friends' for two to three months until I get an apartment. I don't want to have to decline the school offer because of this!

I decided to search around on the private market as well, but it's making me feel even worse. The prices are sky-high, and out of 4000 ads, only 14 allowed pets. When the student loan grants me a meager 7000 NOK, how am I supposed to pay an 8500 rent fee? No matter how you look at it, it just doesn't add up. My plan is to let the cats stay at my parents' while I search for an apartment that allows them, but it's looking pretty bleak right now. In addition to all that, if I DO happen to find an apartment that might work, I still have to travel all the way down there (seven hours by train, two by flight) and look at the place. There's no way that's happening while I work full time this summer.

Will I have to sacrifice my education of choice because of this...? (The university in my area does not offer the degree I want.)

I feel so lost and sad.

Have you looked at communities outside the city your future uni is in? I can't afford the city my uni is in so I live outside the city >___> (just have a longer commute). Maybe if your parents are okay with looking after your cats while you're in school you'll be able to widen your apartment search? Would your friend be willing let you live with them (with your cats too?) if you paid half/part of the rent? Best of luck to you!! >__<

[Hijiri]

Mostly I've been so stressed with school that I've been having breakdowns almost every second day. Most of my free time goes into roleplaying with a friend so that I don't freak out over assignments (dumbest idea ever, I end up not doing them).
The problem? There's a lot of chemistry between certain characters, right? And we both jokingly ship them because why not. Only, I think I have feelings for the person I RP with, and lovey-dovey romance (or romantic things in general) make me feel horrible. Not because I'm repulsed by it, just because it feels like a personal slap in the face saying 'hah the only time you'll have this is when it's PRETEND' so it's this weird tangled mess and I don't have the energy to sort it out, or the confidence to address that with them, so it's just... getting even more convoluted.

For the first issue, I suggest you break your work down into pieces. Once you get a certain amount done, set an alarm for about 10-15 minutes and let yourself have some fun. Once the alarm goes off, aim for another milestone. Just make sure they're substantial enough milestones to account for the amount of breaks you take.
As for the 2nd issue, I personally recommend dealing with the it dead-on. Address it immediately. It's unhealthy to let things fester, especially in that kind of situation since you just make yourself feel worse.

[AshenhartKrie]

Mostly I've been so stressed with school that I've been having breakdowns almost every second day. Most of my free time goes into roleplaying with a friend so that I don't freak out over assignments (dumbest idea ever, I end up not doing them).
The problem? There's a lot of chemistry between certain characters, right? And we both jokingly ship them because why not. Only, I think I have feelings for the person I RP with, and lovey-dovey romance (or romantic things in general) make me feel horrible. Not because I'm repulsed by it, just because it feels like a personal slap in the face saying 'hah the only time you'll have this is when it's PRETEND' so it's this weird tangled mess and I don't have the energy to sort it out, or the confidence to address that with them, so it's just... getting even more convoluted.

For the first issue, I suggest you break your work down into pieces. Once you get a certain amount done, set an alarm for about 10-15 minutes and let yourself have some fun. Once the alarm goes off, aim for another milestone. Just make sure they're substantial enough milestones to account for the amount of breaks you take.
As for the 2nd issue, I personally recommend dealing with the it dead-on. Address it immediately. It's unhealthy to let things fester, especially in that kind of situation since you just make yourself feel worse.

I pretty much do have a system in place for study and stuff - I do work a lot better in breaks. At the moment It's just finding the motivation to start work.
Thanks for the advice though.

[Sapphi]

Just returned from the land of the dead... OK it's actually more lamer than that. Just waked up a few hours ago ad I was informed that I was out for like nearly 2 weeks after I fall while attempting to try and walk upright again... it seems I'll be forever bound to the chair... ON THE BRIGHT SIDE! I'm STILL ALIVE and will most likely be able to witness the Pluto Flyby...

Ouch *sends positive vibes* Please don't push yourself too hard!

[noctos]

Can you do the degree by distance education? Or online?

I'm afraid I can't, the lectures are on campus, and they don't offer any online alternatives.

(I feel your pain with that crush. I fell in love with this new friend I made last summer. We were really close, and it made me super sad that every time we flirted it was just a game to entertain our other friends. I later found out she felt the same way, and I wish I told her earlier. I suggest you talk to that person and straighten it out. It's uncomfortable but it's better than feeling sad and heartbroken!

Have you looked at communities outside the city your future uni is in? I can't afford the city my uni is in so I live outside the city >___> (just have a longer commute). Maybe if your parents are okay with looking after your cats while you're in school you'll be able to widen your apartment search? Would your friend be willing let you live with them (with your cats too?) if you paid half/part of the rent? Best of luck to you!! >__<

I have! It's cheaper, so I think it might be worth a shot. My parents are okay with looking after my cats, the thing is that my mom has steeled herself for three years of watching them. She's constantly making jabs about not being able to go on vacation, and it makes me feel guilty. I wanted to get my cats down with me as quickly as possible, but now it looks like I have to be a little more patient. My friends are extremely helpful! I have two that are willing to let me stay with them, and I also have my uncle and aunt living down there. Unfortunately none of them can have cats in the house. My aunt owns a dog, my first friend is allergic, and the second has hamsters!

It just rubs me the wrong way to become a burden to people I care about. I knew leaving like this was a selfish choice, but I didn't want it to affect others so much! I'm worried about my brother as well. He's moving to the same city, and he doesn't have friends he can stay with the way I do.

Thank you for your kind words ♥

[Rinima]

I've just been labelled a rabbit abuser, and unsuitable as a owner on Youtube ;~;

Me:"They always like to be in pairs" I'm just going to quickly counter this.
While this is true of most rabbits, please don't say all rabbits like being in pairs. My own rabbit was separated from the others in the pet shop for fighting, he still doesn't like them, trust me, we've tried to get him to socialise, but please keep in mind that it's not always the case for them to like being in pairs.

Other User: You're derailing the issue by bringing up an exclusive issue.
You do not appear to be fit to look after animals, I think you need to be interviewed for your continuation to look after this rabbit.
Don't you dare abuse him or you will be sorted.
Shut your satanic face NOW.

I shouldn't be this upset about this, but I can't help but get upset, cause I love my bunny very much, and the idea of hurting him hurts me ;~;

[infel]

I've just been labelled a rabbit abuser, and unsuitable as a owner on Youtube ;~;

Me:"They always like to be in pairs" I'm just going to quickly counter this.
While this is true of most rabbits, please don't say all rabbits like being in pairs. My own rabbit was separated from the others in the pet shop for fighting, he still doesn't like them, trust me, we've tried to get him to socialise, but please keep in mind that it's not always the case for them to like being in pairs.

Other User: You're derailing the issue by bringing up an exclusive issue.
You do not appear to be fit to look after animals, I think you need to be interviewed for your continuation to look after this rabbit.
Don't you dare abuse him or you will be sorted.
Shut your satanic face NOW.

I shouldn't be this upset about this, but I can't help but get upset, cause I love my bunny very much, and the idea of hurting him hurts me ;~;

I'm sorry that happened to you =(. You're not a rabbit abuser at all. Every animal has their preferences and all are not the same. It's sad that person is so ignorant.

But that's why I left Youtube. A good number of users are just rude people...The same is kind of true with some people on steam Steam. I've noticed others, for example, bash Visual Novels and call the creators Weaboos =(. Don't know why people have to say such unnecessary and nasty things...

[Rinima]

I've just been labelled a rabbit abuser, and unsuitable as a owner on Youtube ;~;

Me:"They always like to be in pairs" I'm just going to quickly counter this.
While this is true of most rabbits, please don't say all rabbits like being in pairs. My own rabbit was separated from the others in the pet shop for fighting, he still doesn't like them, trust me, we've tried to get him to socialise, but please keep in mind that it's not always the case for them to like being in pairs.

Other User: You're derailing the issue by bringing up an exclusive issue.
You do not appear to be fit to look after animals, I think you need to be interviewed for your continuation to look after this rabbit.
Don't you dare abuse him or you will be sorted.
Shut your satanic face NOW.

I shouldn't be this upset about this, but I can't help but get upset, cause I love my bunny very much, and the idea of hurting him hurts me ;~;

I'm sorry that happened to you =(. You're not a rabbit abuser at all. Every animal has their preferences and all are not the same. It's sad that person is so ignorant.

But that's why I left Youtube. A good number of users are just rude people...The same is kind of true with some people on steam Steam. I've noticed others, for example, bash Visual Novels and call the creators Weaboos =(. Don't know why people have to say such unnecessary and nasty things...

Thank you for that, it made me less anxious

And yea, there's a reason I'm not big into the steam community, and I can't remember the last time I had a nice conversation on YouTube...

[infel]

To Rinima: Np =). And that's how I feel as well. Just like YouTube community isn't friendly at all and some people actually seem to like bringing others down. It sucks because I might want to post a game there some day if I can .

[Rinima]

You know, you can only push someone so far before they snap.
I've had enough of living with my family, I get call degoritory names constantly (aka, b**ch, t*at, stupid ect ect), I'm constantly getting called lazy for not going to help at the farm (FOR GOD SAKE IM IN THE MIDDLE OF A EFFING DEGREE), and keeps getting reminded that I failed horribly at my last uni (despite having got into another, just as good one, only half a year later).

I think it's time to move out.

(sorry if I seem like I'm hogging this thread, I've had a horrible couple of days)

[Lishy]

Just returned from the land of the dead... OK it's actually more lamer than that. Just waked up a few hours ago ad I was informed that I was out for like nearly 2 weeks after I fall while attempting to try and walk upright again... it seems I'll be forever bound to the chair... ON THE BRIGHT SIDE! I'm STILL ALIVE and will most likely be able to witness the Pluto Flyby...

My inbox is full, I need to PM Bunbun and the others on Twitter... but what did I missed while I'm knocked out cold?...

"POOF" (Disappears)

Goodness, I hope things brighten up.

I've been following your Twitter. Keep us updated on the Pluto Flyby!

[Mad Harlequin]

You know, you can only push someone so far before they snap.
I've had enough of living with my family, I get called derogatory names constantly (aka, b**ch, t*at, stupid etc etc), I'm constantly getting called lazy for not going to help at the farm (FOR GOD SAKE I'M IN THE MIDDLE OF A EFFING DEGREE), and keeps getting reminded that I failed horribly at my last uni (despite having got into another, just as good one, only half a year later).

I think it's time to move out.

(sorry if I seem like I'm hogging this thread, I've had a horrible couple of days)

You're not hogging the thread. It exists for this purpose, so don't worry about needing to vent.

Do you have a support system at your current university? Do you talk to a counselor (either there or outside of uni)?