Public Displays of Affection = Rudeness?!

[kara24601]

Recently , while trying to find something else , one of the links that stood out leaded to a "miss manners" page ( sorta like dear abby ) ....

http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/ ... id=3661804

It's funny , I never thought of PDA's as rude before. Embarrassing or annoying to people , yes / maybe , but rude? Never even crossed my mind. To me , kissing each other alot in public doesn't mean "we're ignoring everyone else" or "we want to only be with each other" either. If it truely meant that then wouldn't they have just stayed home or something?



Now I can understand and agree that this ( if I considered it a PDA but this goes far beyond a simple PDA ) :

http://meta.ath0.com/articles/2006/09/2 ... -affection

would be rude / is rudeness ( and downright disgusting / crazy and stupid since they both or at least one of them was drunk ....it's one thing to have sex "in public" without it actually being that public .....like ...if you knew you weren't going to get caught or something that's one thing but having sex on a train where even little kids may be around...that's so many levels of wrong. )

Now , back to the real PDA. I say , if it's not hurting anybody or keeping them from doing their job , leave it alone. Then again , I'm one of those people who get annoyed , jealous , and / or embarrassed by others PDAs.
I know it's really none of my business and all but sometimes I can't help how I feel inside about it. ( of course I never say anything ... )
If I had a friend who was always kissing her BF alot in public , I wouldn't make a big deal out of it or at least try not to make a big deal out of it.
I think it's stupid to let something like that bother you so much ( and this is not just one of her friends but a group of so-called friends! ) that you feel the need to have a talk about it. I can understand wanting them to chill a little if they truely keep waiters waiting for them to say something...
otherwise...they call themselves her friends?!

It's funny , as much as PDAs can annoy me , I also really hate the "get a room" mentality most people seem to have....So they kiss alot in public. Big woo. If they're not blocking foot traffic or keeping people waiting on them to finish just so they can talk to them / get their order , and so on....why care so much?



"I wondered if they had informational posters I had missed." Hahaha!

[chisa-chan]

Think about it, I have a related issue here.

While PDA might be rude, in some countries, this might be tolerable, but in here? A new set of rules has been out, and one of them says that PDA is prohibited, and this includes to law breaking.

Funny, isn't it? Rude or annoying, this might be normal, but...breaking the law?

[lordcloudx]

That law could easily be repealed as unconstitutional in my country.

[DaFool]

I think answering a cellphone call while I'm in the middle of conversing with you is rude.

1.) It cuts me off and shows that you prefer talking to casual friends who just ask "What's up?"
2.) It leaves me in a precarious position of eavesdropping into someone else's social life
3.) I am left twiddling my thumbs or sipping my iced tea while you go "Yak, yak, yak."
4.) It gives the impression that you are too popular and can just shrug me off anytime since you have way more friends than me anyways.
5.) I find it harder to resume the conversation "Where were we?"

Generally, I'm of the principle of undivided attention. If you have to divide your attention, then I won't give you attention. Period.

[Misuzu]

I assume its okay though if the person glances at the phone to see who it is then politely asks if its okay to take the call?

Then at least IMO, I wouldn't mind picking up the convo after its done. Becuase (at least in my field of work) sometimes you just can't afford to miss a call either.

[F.I.A]

I recalled one news where a couple was held by the police, due to their over cozyness during their travel on an aeroplane.

Normal stuff such as kiss is nothing offending, but anything over than that is just plain poser. There is a reason we don't walk around the street naked.

Well, that is considered breaking the law, since they are "troubling others". It is an offend by some.

[kara24601]

Normal stuff such as kiss is nothing offending, but anything over than that is just plain poser. There is a reason we don't walk around the street naked.

Yep.

It's kinda too bad that we women don't get to go around braless whenever we want or topless ( in hot weather ) though. I really hate bras. I mean , they can be pretty but they are HELL to wear. I don't care if "it looks bad if an older woman doesn't wear a bra" ( I think my mom's just being stupid and you probably can't really tell THAT MUCH unless it's cold or something... )

If I remember correctly , it's not against the law in Germany to go around topless ( at least in hot weather of course ) ....
Hmm , maybe I should start seriously considering moving there. Hahaha.

I love bras 'cause they can be pretty / beautiful and sexy.