I wonder why??

Forum organization and occasional community-building.
Forum rules
Questions about Ren'Py should go in the Ren'Py Questions and Announcements forum.
Post Reply
Message
Author
User avatar
Electric Daisy
Newbie
Posts: 19
Joined: Wed Apr 22, 2015 9:09 pm
Contact:

I wonder why??

#1 Post by Electric Daisy » Fri May 15, 2015 12:47 am

Geez...i wonder why i always attracted to anime guys rather than real life dude.Anime guys were so hot that i can't help but drooled over their handsome face.Whenever a real life dude try to hit on me..i would lost my appetites afterward.Their cheesy lines gave me a terrible goosebumps. :(

What about you girls out there?Which one will you pick?Anime guys or real life dude?Feel free to drop your comments. :D

User avatar
Mad Harlequin
Eileen-Class Veteran
Posts: 1068
Joined: Sun Jul 14, 2013 12:55 am
Projects: Emma: A Lady's Maid (editor)
IRC Nick: MadHarlequin
Location: Gotham City
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#2 Post by Mad Harlequin » Fri May 15, 2015 2:54 am

I confess I've found many fictional characters attractive for different reasons, but have I ever preferred them to a real person? The answer to that question is no.

In particular, many anime characters are prettified and idealized. I'm not into that.
I'm an aspiring writer and voice talent with a passion for literature and an unhealthy attachment to video games. I am also a seasoned typo-sniper. Inquiries are encouraged. Friendly chats are welcome.
"Always do what is right. It will gratify half of mankind and astound the other."
— Mark Twain

User avatar
MaiMai
Yandere
Posts: 1757
Joined: Sat Mar 21, 2009 6:04 pm
Completed: [Phase Shift]
Projects: [ None ]
Organization: Paper Stars
Tumblr: maiscribbles
Deviantart: maiscribble
Location: USA, Southern California
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#3 Post by MaiMai » Fri May 15, 2015 3:23 am

Image
Image COMMISSIONS AVAILABLE (check Tumblr sidebar)

User avatar
SundownKid
Lemma-Class Veteran
Posts: 2299
Joined: Mon Feb 06, 2012 9:50 pm
Completed: Icebound, Selenon Rising Ep. 1-2
Projects: Selenon Rising Ep. 3-4
Organization: Fastermind Games
Deviantart: sundownkid
Location: NYC
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#4 Post by SundownKid » Fri May 15, 2015 8:27 am

Well there are a few possibilities. Either the guys that are hitting on you really are just that unattractive and/or creepy. Or, they're perfectly normal and you just have unrealistic expectations of what it would consist of. I would have no trouble writing a Cassanova character, but simply working up the courage to say a cheesy pick-up line in real life is no mean feat. (And obviously, everyone in anime is flawless and idealized versions of reality) Lastly it could be that you are just confusing being too shy to engage them as not being attracted to them. It could be that if you gave it more of a chance you would be attracted eventually.

User avatar
noctos
Regular
Posts: 65
Joined: Thu May 14, 2015 2:15 am
Projects: Aeris
Tumblr: noctos
Location: Norway
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#5 Post by noctos » Fri May 15, 2015 2:52 pm

MaiMai wrote:Image
*cackles*

But to answer the question, uh... Not recently, no. As a kid I was obnoxiously "attracted" to fictional characters, but it sort of faded over the years. I still feel connected to some, and occasionally wish the guys I interact with in real life had some of their traits, but I wouldn't choose an Anime Bishie over a real person.

Are you sure you don't just have unrealistic expectations? Also, aren't cheesy lines more common in anime/manga than in real life?

User avatar
jezebelthenun
Regular
Posts: 32
Joined: Fri Apr 24, 2015 3:50 pm
Projects: Currently working on my first VN entitled "Lovely End"
Location: San Diego, CA
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#6 Post by jezebelthenun » Fri May 15, 2015 9:32 pm

There are certain fictional characters who I wish were real people, that's for sure. I think the only animated character I've ever completely fallen in love with, though, is Fry from Futurama. :D
Please fill out this short VN Preference survey!

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/2XH6MJ8

User avatar
Sapphi
Eileen-Class Veteran
Posts: 1685
Joined: Fri Jun 05, 2009 3:31 am
Completed: Boku no Taisetsu na Yumeko
Projects: Twelve, PAW ★ PRINTS
Organization: Kitsch-soft
Location: Illinois, USA
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#7 Post by Sapphi » Fri May 15, 2015 10:43 pm

Electric Daisy wrote:Whenever a real life dude try to hit on me..i would lost my appetites afterward.Their cheesy lines gave me a terrible goosebumps. :(
:lol: :lol: :lol:

You probably just haven't met the right real life dudes.
What about you girls out there?Which one will you pick?Anime guys or real life dude?Feel free to drop your comments. :D
I have a whole Pinterest board full of (mostly) 2D men, but real men are better because:

1. They are warm and you can listen to them breathing and to their heart
2. You can talk to them
3. You can play with them
4. You can cuddle with them
5. You can get cute reactions out of them
6. You can love them
7. You can admire them doing something they are passionate about
8. You can help them do that thing!
9. And also help them do other things 8)

Whereas anime guys... you can only really do 7 and possibly 6.
"It is [the writer's] privilege to help man endure by lifting his heart,
by reminding him of the courage and honor and hope and pride
and compassion and pity and sacrifice which have been the glory of his past."
— William Faulkner
▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬..+X+..▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬
Image

User avatar
Kato
Miko-Class Veteran
Posts: 649
Joined: Tue Jan 15, 2013 4:45 am
Projects: Memories of Summer Winds
Organization: Blue Sphere Group
Location: Perth, Western Australia
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#8 Post by Kato » Fri May 15, 2015 10:57 pm

This is actually super interesting. When I was a younger chap I was all about #18 from dbz. Like I was in-freaking-love with her. Although it didn't cause me to swear off real life relationships, it might be the reason why I've settled down with a cute blonde with one hell of a temper :lol:.
Image Image
Kato, Producer & Programmer for Blue Sphere Group. Current Projects: Memories of Summer Winds

Caveat Lector
Miko-Class Veteran
Posts: 680
Joined: Wed Jun 05, 2013 11:02 am
Completed: Colette and Becca
Projects: Rainbow Love (HIATUS), The Haunting of Blackbird School, Cry of the Roses [TBA]
Organization: Velveteen Rabbit Productions
Deviantart: Velveteen-Rabbit-CL
itch: caveat_lector
Location: My chair
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#9 Post by Caveat Lector » Fri May 15, 2015 11:41 pm

You probably just haven't met the right real life dudes.
Not necessarily. Not everyone NEEDS to meet the "right" person in real life. Sometimes, if we do, it's not necessarily going to be someone of the opposite/binary sex. Or maybe it will be. It can be someone completely unexpected.

Anyway, to OP, I say, don't be in a rush. Recognize that there are things you could have in a real-life relationship that would be better than in a one-sided fictional relationship (direct communication, for example), and that what you see is often idealized and prettified, but don't feel like you HAVE to be attracted to someone, nor should you feel obligated to respond to anyone who says things that make you feel uncomfortable.

If you want to meet real-life guys who share your interests and who make you feel comfortable, spend some time with other people. Join an anime club, or a sports team, or a drama group, or whatever. Who knows, maybe you'll bond with someone who also agrees certain anime characters are cute? :wink:

As for me, romantic relationships just aren't a priority right now. If given the choice, I'd pick a real-life, long-lasting relationship with another person. But for now, anime guys are for fanficcing more than anything else.
Reader Beware!


The Haunting of Blackbird School: In Progress

Colette and Becca: Complete

User avatar
Electric Daisy
Newbie
Posts: 19
Joined: Wed Apr 22, 2015 9:09 pm
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#10 Post by Electric Daisy » Sat May 16, 2015 12:52 am

It's kinda hard to admit...but maybe you guys were right.
Perhaps it's true that i just haven't meet the right guy yet..
but still,thanks for all of the advice and opinion.. :)

User avatar
wendybirdx
Regular
Posts: 40
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 12:30 pm
Tumblr: mandikkins
Deviantart: wendybirdx
Location: Brazil
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#11 Post by wendybirdx » Sat May 16, 2015 9:14 am

When I was much younger (10-14 I'd say), I would prefer fictional guys over real life guys but only because I wasn't really into the whole dating scene yet and liking someone had nothing to do with really wanting a proper relationship but just an aesthetic kind of liking. I didn't realize it much at the time though :P

This has obviously changed, though. As I gained a notion of what a relationship really was, of course I started to look at real life guys differently. (Esp. since they weren't immature kids that threw things at each other and screamed during class anymore, at least for the most part xD)

User avatar
Taleweaver
Writing Maniac
Posts: 3428
Joined: Tue Nov 11, 2003 8:51 am
Completed: Metropolitan Blues, The Loyal Kinsman, Daemonophilia, The Dreaming, The Thirteenth Year, Adrift, Bionic Heart 2, Secrets of the Wolf, The Photographer
Projects: The Pilgrim's Path, Elspeth's Garden, Secret Adventure Game!
Organization: Tall Tales Productions
Location: Germany
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#12 Post by Taleweaver » Mon May 18, 2015 3:12 am

Fictional people are safe to adore and drool over. They'll never hurt you, or do stupid things you dislike. Thus, it's a bit of an unfair comparison.
Scriptwriter and producer of Metropolitan Blues
Creator of The Loyal Kinsman
Scriptwriter and director of Daemonophilia
Scriptwriter and director of The Dreaming
Scriptwriter of Zenith Chronicles
Scriptwriter and director of The Thirteenth Year
Scriptwriter and director of Romance is Dead
Scriptwriter and producer of Adrift
More about me in my blog
"Adrift - Like Ever17, but without the Deus Ex Machina" - HigurashiKira

User avatar
Kailoto
Veteran
Posts: 232
Joined: Sat Jan 12, 2013 2:36 am
Completed: No VNs, but a few novels. :D
Projects: Artificial, Seven Deaths (inactive)
Skype: I'm on Discord! (Kailoto#5139)
Location: Seattle, the Emerald City
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#13 Post by Kailoto » Mon May 18, 2015 5:07 am

Taleweaver wrote:Fictional people are safe to adore and drool over. They'll never hurt you, or do stupid things you dislike. Thus, it's a bit of an unfair comparison.
And in those few cases where fictional characters actually do betray your trust in some way, even if it's mollified a bit, it still hurts.
Things I've Written:
Sakura (Novel, Self Published, 80,000+ words)
City and Girl (Novel, First Draft, 70,000+ words)
Loka (Novel, Third Draft, 120,000+ words)


A layabout writer and programmer with lots of problems and even more ideas. Hyped for Persona 5.

User avatar
TsukiShima
Miko-Class Veteran
Posts: 778
Joined: Fri Aug 05, 2011 4:47 am
Projects: Heartful Memory
Location: Malaysia
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#14 Post by TsukiShima » Mon May 18, 2015 7:14 am

I'm not sure if it happens to everyone, but it did happen to me.

It was because of my love for a fictional man from a particular anime, I was able to share interest with who is now my best friend (I would like to say life partner but they haven't agree to me yet ;P) but I just want to say don't lose hope. They are right, you just haven't found the /real/ one that is meant for you.

User avatar
Aviala
Miko-Class Veteran
Posts: 528
Joined: Tue Sep 03, 2013 8:40 am
Completed: Your Royal Gayness, Our War Everlasting, Love Bug
Organization: Lizard Hazard Games
Tumblr: lizardhazardgames
itch: aviala
Location: Finland
Contact:

Re: I wonder why??

#15 Post by Aviala » Mon May 18, 2015 5:27 pm

If you never feel attraction to real people, I advise you to read about asexuality. Asexual people don't feel sexual attraction. There are also grey aces like demisexuals who only feel sexual attraction in very specific conditions, for example only after getting to know someone very well..

Post Reply

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users