Well, he/she's extremely shy or an introvert. What's so bad about that?Silvere wrote:So basically you are not very experienced in it, extremely shy and not able to lead a conversation - therefore shutting yourself in, as chatting online is going perfectly.Sapphi wrote:Face to face I just sort of blush, avoid prolonged eye contact, and stumble over my words like an idiot.
Seriously, try to get out and talk with others or this will stay with you for a long long time !
I'm not the most people-person either. I'm not anti-social, per se, but I usually don't like most people (in real life). But if I do like
people, it's only a few of them I would be close with. (Most of the time, I'm with family friends or relatives. I'm one of those
who prefer to be in tight-knit groups.)
Some people are introverts and some are extroverts.
I can never be like my mother who is extremely extrovert and talks to her lady friends a lot. I am trying to open
up more, but I seemed to get burned more than if I had just kept quiet. I can do small talk and joking around with
strangers, but if I'm not getting any responses back, I would just stop talking. Sometimes, I wouldn't know what to
talk about with some people, especially if they dislike most of the interests I like (or are also anti-social as well), so yeah...
For me (as a young adult female), It's hard to find people with similar interests, especially when you get into adulthood--when topics like work, taking care of children, going to college, gossiping about neighbors, chores, sometimes "partying", marriage, sex, diseases, deaths and other "real life" topics are the thing most older adults talk about. Finding (especially female) adults with the same interests in niche subjects like anime/manga, visual novels, and even games (which is mostly what teenage/young adult boys/some men would be willing to talk about) is difficult to find in real life.
So, yeah, I can understand why Silvere would prefer to talk online. It's a bit more easier to find people with similar interests online (due to forums with specific topics, etc) than offline.
My sister has aspergers syndrome (is an autism disorder), so she is even more anti-social--even with her own friends, she's not that sociable and would actually forget they were there sometimes, lol. Thing is, she doesn't realize she's being rude; it's just how her brain works. All I can do is gently remind her and encourage her, but socializing will always be something she will have difficulty with. She socializes better online, since she can find more young people with her same interests [anime/manga/vocaloids/etc] online than in real life, where
it's mostly older people in the neighborhood or young lusty teenagers with the brains of a peanut, lol.