What do you hate about yourself?

[silverpikachu99]

The thing I hate the most about me is that i'm kinda closed off. Even if they're my closest friends ever- I still might hide that i'm sad by laughing and smiling all the time. I don't even know why.. It just really pisses me off!!

[Tempus]

Nothing. If I disliked something about myself, I'd change it. Seems to be the logical solution.

This, pretty much. I can think of a lot of flaws I have, but I can't change them all at once and there's no sense in hating myself over them. Though like arachni42 said, it's not always as easy as just changing, especially if it's an entrenched habit. I try to think about what makes a habit so hard to change and usually that reveals some insight into a better way to approach it. For example, eat healthier; it's hard to start a new diet because you buy the healthy stuff but there's still all that junk in your fridge which you're not supposed to be eating any more. But if you actually chuck away the ice cream, pizza, etc. (instead of just trying to avoid it) all you're left with is healthy food and it forces you to eat it when you get hungry.

It's like that proverb, "black ink stains black, red ink stains red" (or however it goes): the environment you're in, the people you're around and the media you consume will influence your behaviour. It's part of the reason I almost never watch tv or use social media. I don't want to come to view the latest news as important (which large parts of it simply aren't) or worry about who likes me, etc so I simply avoid it.

[Dream]

That i'm not nearly as brave/righteous, diligent, dedicated and hard-working as i would like to be.

[KittyKatStar]

Crippling lack of confidence and low self-esteem. OTZ Makes me anxious whenever I write something that'll eventually be released to the public and probably get shredded. T_T I can't even handle *praise*, I get anxiety attacks from reading feedback whether positive or negative. I just wish I was better at dealing with it.

And of course the fear I'm bringing everyone down with my lack of abilities, and being the weakest link. And that no one will want to work with me again because I'm a bundle of unskilled nerves and not fun to have around. =,D

[Kami]

I hate my inability to stick with uninteresting but beneficial plans.

[hikaa212]

The thing I hate the most about me is that i'm kinda closed off. Even if they're my closest friends ever- I still might hide that i'm sad by laughing and smiling all the time. I don't even know why.. It just really pisses me off!!

Me too! I guess it's just that I dislike being comforted by others eventhough I always listen and help other people's problem.

and also, I tend to get distracted a lot haha xD

[Rinima]

My annoyance. I really am incredibly annoying.

[rock_an9el]

Hmmm... I hate my lack of confidence. Sure, I don't appear that way on first sight, but... Trust me, it's there (or should I say it's not?). I wish I could fix that (and I'm working on it as much as I can) but it's just so damn hard!
That's partly why I haven't gotten anything done. I love writing, yet I can't seem to finish my story cause I'm not confident enough that it will be good enough. I love to sing, but I don't sing out loud because I think my voice is not good enough. I love drawing, but I don't share my art because I think I'm just a plain beginner.
Gahh, I must say that is killing me, but I can't help it... I can only continue fighting against it, i guess? :/

Oh, and I also hate how my face gets all red when I feel a bit uncomfortable. But I hate the first thing more XD
Other than that, I'm pretty good with myself.

[azureXtwilight]

I can't say no to people, because I'm too afraid that they will somehow get disappointed in me and start to drift away. I guess you can call that being insecure.

[Didules]

To my friends, I am someone who never take thing seriously, it's fun being around me because I joke all the time. I like seeing them laugh, I think it's great that I can make them smile. They are happy being my friends (at least I hope) and as friends.
I wish I could be more honest with them, stop smiling when I don't want to and stop taking everything as a joke to make them laugh. I feel indeed really lonely and sad, lonely because I never tell what I think, sad because by this attitude I think I hurt some people. I regret hurting them, but I couldn't be honest with them, I really couldn't. I've hidden my true feelings for such a long time, it's now natural for me to hide it, and I ended up hurting them on pure reflex...
The worst part is that I don't think I can change. The main reason why would be because I don't think my friends would like the real me since I'm quite different drom what I usually show. I don't feel like telling the truth because I think I'm quite an annoying and complicated person. I'd rather lie to them in a way that would make them laugh than be honest and (maybe?) more happy. I dislike this part of me.

[rock_an9el]

@Didules
Umm, this may be just my opinion, but... Anyone can change, if they try hard enough. So don't give up, but give it your best shot!

And, are you sure that they are your friends...? Cause, if you have to pretend in front of them, then something must be wrong... You know, having at least one person in front of which we can be ourselves is worth more than having a hundred people that see only our mask. I have that one friend, and I don't feel sad or bad at all... So if they truly are your friends, they will accept you for who you really are.

And agreed, I love to make my friends smile too by goofing around. But... If I'm not me, then I won't be happy...

Sorry, I just felt the need to comment this, I hope you don't mind ^_^ But I also hope you understand what I'm trying to say.. So good luck with finding a solution for this!

[Fenrir34]

I hate how weird and controlling I can be. I'm trying to change that but it's hard. Also I hate about how shy I am and sometimes how I look. In fact I could list more but I'm trying to gain a little bit more confidence ahah -_-.....

I also hate how I take things to seriously. It's not only because my sign is a cancer but also part of my personality. I tell people to be careful what they say to me because I take things the wrong way sometimes. I gotta change that trait but it's hard


Also, sometimes I'm paranoid. That's more of a sickness...Hope I don't go crazy...

[Fenrir34]

I can't say no to people, because I'm too afraid that they will somehow get disappointed in me and start to drift away. I guess you can call that being insecure.

That's something I go through as well... I can't say no either and when people get disappointed in me I kind of crawl back in my hole.....It really sucks when people are mad at me, even when I'm just trying to help
Also, I apologize to much for doing something right like getting a goal....I don't it as much as I did as a kid but still it's a little frustrating...

[Didules]

@ rock_an9el:
I don't mind, don't worry! Indeed, I feel like I should thank you instead ^^
You are right, I will at least try something with my friends, since I don't want to stay in this state of mind forever!! I already tried in the past, but most of them were surprised at how cynical I could be =.=" the fact is I am depressed all the time, but maybe it is due to the fact that I never opened up to anyone? So if I talk about it to my friends, owuld I get less depressed? Then would they be less surprised by the difference? Who I am truly? Is this depressed me a part of my personnality or is it only a temporary thing? Your comment made me think about tons of things, and I think I may find a way to solve this one day or the other, so thanks a lot!! Your words made my day somehow!

@Fenrir: apologizing for everything, I did that too before! But then, I realised since it was a reflex, it lacked sense and I felt like my apologizes lost their meaning... I understand how frustrating it is, and I hope you can overcome this (that is, if you want to, of course). Also, I don't think taking everything seriously is a bad thing, there are times when it will really help you to catch some opportunities, but I guess how hard it could be (I tend to do the contrary, I wonder if we would get along XD). I wish you good luck!

[Fenrir34]

@ rock_an9el:
I don't mind, don't worry! Indeed, I feel like I should thank you instead ^^
You are right, I will at least try something with my friends, since I don't want to stay in this state of mind forever!! I already tried in the past, but most of them were surprised at how cynical I could be =.=" the fact is I am depressed all the time, but maybe it is due to the fact that I never opened up to anyone? So if I talk about it to my friends, owuld I get less depressed? Then would they be less surprised by the difference? Who I am truly? Is this depressed me a part of my personnality or is it only a temporary thing? Your comment made me think about tons of things, and I think I may find a way to solve this one day or the other, so thanks a lot!! Your words made my day somehow!

@Fenrir: apologizing for everything, I did that too before! But then, I realised since it was a reflex, it lacked sense and I felt like my apologizes lost their meaning... I understand how frustrating it is, and I hope you can overcome this (that is, if you want to, of course). Also, I don't think taking everything seriously is a bad thing, there are times when it will really help you to catch some opportunities, but I guess how hard it could be (I tend to do the contrary, I wonder if we would get along XD). I wish you good luck!

Thank you for the advice Didules. And I want to stop saying it so much. Still it's nice to tell people it if they think you did something wrong, though you didn't