And that's what annoys me so much, people having no sense of perspective. I'd be perfectly happy with a game that had only one highly-suggestive scene in it, but if having *any* sex at all gets you into trouble, then people feel pressed to choose between TONS of sex or NO sex.
I came across the online musings of one finally-no-longer-virgin person, and he had some pretty philosophical ideas about sex. Such as
- where exactly does sex begin? Intercourse? Foreplay? Kissing? How about driving to the motel with the intention to have sex? Heck, I could even conclude that the moment I picked up the phone, that's when I started having sex.
I'm afraid the dualistic thinking has a lot to do with U.S. social and political attitudes (yes, I'd rather not venture into discussion in that territory). Everything is always a spectrum. And even when people start to classify them, the diversity is hard to ignore:
http://heiseidemocracy.net/2005/09/08/n ... subgenres/
I would like to add (after having played all OEL games that run on my system), that most of them are Nakige. Not necessarily because they're 'crying games', but because the most effort was put to the writing. Even though short, the plots are novelesque, yet they are still ren'ai games. Nevertheless, there isn't much moe. It seems, according to what people have recently been doing, that the trend is to go even further into solid Visual Novel territory, while only keeping a foot within the bounds of ren'ai / romance.
The picture spectrum has been taken down since they moved the updated site to .com, but it looked somewhat like this:
Visual Novels_______ Nakige______ Dating Sims_______ Galge_______ Yaruge
<----------------------------------------------story---------------------------------------------
-------------------------------------------------sex---------------------------------------------->
---------------------moe-------------->maximum moe<------------moe--------------
----------------------------------|_______ ren'ai / bishoujo games________ |----------------
(The author defines dating sims and renai games as the same; I think we agree that dating sims have more open-ended gameplay; ren'ai just requires romantic elements)