Fawn wrote:@LateWhiteRabbit: I'm a little confused on your position. While I agree that ambiguous endings are good, we're talking about romance here- you got the girl, or the guy... Isn't it nice to see what happens in their relationship later as an extra? How does it dilute the emotional impact?
For example one of my dream endings for a game would show the couple married many years later living a happy life with their daughter/son. Does that dilute the original ending of "you got the girl/guy"?
Don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying ambiguous endings are always better.
Instead, each story has an ending that is best for it. Sometimes that means having an ambiguous ending, other times it means wrapping everything up tight with a little bow on top.
Let's use another example - Lord of the Rings, Return of the King (the movie). The story was over when the ring was destroyed. Was it nice to see what happened to all the characters afterward? Partly yes, but 25 minutes of movie after the story is over destroyed a lot of the emotional punch of the storyline. We didn't need to see what happened to some of those characters because everyone KNEW what was going to happen to them - of course Aragorn would become king, yada, yada. Frodo was perhaps the only one that needed the extra closure.
But it all depends on the story. Like I said before, finish the same story that you start. Too many novice writers will finish a different story than the one they started, and it makes for poor storytelling.
One more example - Romeo and Juliet. Would an epilogue help that story? Would finding out whether or not the deaths of their children would make the Montagues and Capulets patch things up have improved the narrative? No, we would have lost the emotional stomach punch of the twin suicides, and it didn't matter whether the families made up or not - the damage was done. The story started was whether or not two star-crossed lovers, forced to be enemies by their families, could ever find true happiness with each other. (No. No they could not.) As soon as that question was answered, the story was over.
The question isn't really "Epilogue, or no epilogue?" but "Where do I end my story?" because an epilogue is just the final chapter by another name. Finding the right place to end your story is just as important as finding the place to start it. You really need to know both before you start, because some common advice is that the story should start as close to the end as possible. That's why Romeo and Juliet starts 3 days before their deaths, on the day Romeo crashes her party, and not a month before their deaths when he was still dating Rosaline.