Get that thing off your chest... Now...

[Dollywitch]

It's not harassment so much as the fact that it's propagating this -

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_blaming

http://www.whattamisaid.com/2009/09/mar ... -have.html

[Dollywitch]

But I don't have to like you to feel sympathy for you - which I honestly, sincerely do.

This is a very important point. The amount of shitheaded excuses I've gotten over the last few days for not sympathising with my very real problems is unbelievable. I sympathise with people I don't agree with or even like all the time. Because that's not only part of being a good person, it can be necessary to relate to and work with others.

[AnthonyHJ]

The amount of shitheaded excuses I've gotten over the last few days for not sympathising with my very real problems is unbelievable.

Basic humanity is sadly lacking in modern society. Quite simply, the trick (as has been mentioned) is often to ignore fools and move on. It is never easy, but there's rarely anything useful to be gained from listening to your detractors.

You're in pain. You are meant to be in pain. Even if you don't deserve it, the things these people are doing and saying are going to hurt you. There is nothing weak about this, about just wanting to curl up in a ball and cry. It might be an idea to look for help. If you are at university or college, there should be a counselling service. Some schools will have them too. If not, your doctor can often refer you to someone.

In the end, you are suffering and this sounds like it is not a momentary thing. You need support and, if you are not getting it in your current situation, you need to seek it out. It's not weakness to feel pain. It's not shameful to ask for help.

I sympathise with people I don't agree with or even like all the time. Because that's not only part of being a good person, it can be necessary to relate to and work with others.

I like disagreeing with people, because I enjoy debate and discussion. As long as it never goes to personal attacks, I can respect a person I disagree with. I won't pretend it's always easy, but how can you have a rational and mature debate if you don't respect the other person?

[Anna]

Dollywitch, as people have been repeating; turn off your computer or laptop and go and talk to someone offline or through the phone who can help you, like specialists. Tell them everything you're troubled with and seek advice.

Just talking like that with someone really helps, I promise. I've had my share of breakdowns because of family situations in the past, and whenever it happened (even when it was late) I would get on my bike and go to my best friend. I'd get the hell away from what was driving me insane. It works wonders when you create distance.

Even if you don't have anyone like that near you, call a hotline or specialist please. Right now you're stuck in this cycle and keep looking at things which frustrate you. You have to talk with someone, so you can stop looking at what's bothering you for at least a bit and can calm down.

[HikkiPanda]

AAAAARGGHH!!!!! I'm not a fan of Lady Gaga ... I only listen to anime song, but this is getting ridiculous!!!!

She's going to have a concert in my country but it seems that it's going to get canceled because ridiculous reasons like ...
- She's an agent of satan (this is because she worship a statue in concert lol)
- She's a part of Israel's evil scheme to destroy a certain religion
- She's a bisexual
- There is a problem with the way she dressed and stuff. So far this is the only logical reason but she agrees to tone it down so it shouldn't be a problem ... .

The worst is, now these idiots is also trying to get the concert producer arrested.

Indonesian police is friends with these idiots, they exchanged gift and visit each others (some member from this groups got several months in jail for murdering 3 people lol ... that's probably about the same sentence I'll got if I decide to steal my neighbor's sandal or chicken). Police even become their bodyguard when they do raids ... .

There are tons of stuff that I still want to say but I'll just keep it shut for the sake of political correctness .... .

[Nejisa]

AAAAARGGHH!!!!! I'm not a fan of Lady Gaga ... I only listen to anime song, but this is getting ridiculous!!!!

She's going to have a concert in my country but it seems that it's going to get canceled because ridiculous reasons like ...
- She's an agent of satan (this is because she worship a statue in concert lol)
- She's a part of Israel's evil scheme to destroy a certain religion
- She's a bisexual
- There is a problem with the way she dressed and stuff. So far this is the only logical reason but she agrees to tone it down so it shouldn't be a problem ... .

The worst is, now these idiots is also trying to get the concert producer arrested.

Indonesian police is friends with these idiots, they exchanged gift and visit each others (some member from this groups got several months in jail for murdering 3 people lol ... that's probably about the same sentence I'll got if I decide to steal my neighbor's sandal or chicken). Police even become their bodyguard when they do raids ... .

There are tons of stuff that I still want to say but I'll just keep it shut for the sake of political correctness .... .

HATE THAT.

These kind of people is so annoying, it makes me think that 'God' is sending people just to troll.

[jeje]

AAAAARGGHH!!!!! I'm not a fan of Lady Gaga ... I only listen to anime song, but this is getting ridiculous!!!!

She's going to have a concert in my country but it seems that it's going to get canceled because ridiculous reasons like ...
- She's an agent of satan (this is because she worship a statue in concert lol)
- She's a part of Israel's evil scheme to destroy a certain religion
- She's a bisexual
- There is a problem with the way she dressed and stuff. So far this is the only logical reason but she agrees to tone it down so it shouldn't be a problem ... .

The worst is, now these idiots is also trying to get the concert producer arrested.

Indonesian police is friends with these idiots, they exchanged gift and visit each others (some member from this groups got several months in jail for murdering 3 people lol ... that's probably about the same sentence I'll got if I decide to steal my neighbor's sandal or chicken). Police even become their bodyguard when they do raids ... .

There are tons of stuff that I still want to say but I'll just keep it shut for the sake of political correctness .... .

F to the P to the I

Edit: I don't think it's a good idea to post this thing here. Sorry. Just... ugh...

[Twisted-Eva]

Why oh whyyyyyyyyy did I thought it was a smart idea to merge the "white out" layer and my outfit line art into one layer so I can block out the naked base image? Now I have to erase every white pixel to make things look smooth and redo some lines and color... D:

[Crocosquirrel]

Why oh whyyyyyyyyy did I thought it was a smart idea to merge the "white out" layer and my outfit line art into one layer so I can block out the naked base image? Now I have to erase every white pixel to make things look smooth and redo some lines and color... D:

Ouch... Let it be known that you're not the only one to make that particular error. I've done it myself. Did the Undo not work?

[LVUER]

Why oh whyyyyyyyyy did I thought it was a smart idea to merge the "white out" layer and my outfit line art into one layer so I can block out the naked base image? Now I have to erase every white pixel to make things look smooth and redo some lines and color... D:

That's why you keep multiple backup files when you're doing/making something. Recent software should have such feature (I forgot what it's called... is it iterative save?). What I'm doing is I use save-as instead of save, every 1 hour or so. So I could end up with 18 files when drawing an art. Takes some HDD spaces but now if you mess up with one file, you only need to open previous files and save hours of work.

[Elze]

I think most working adults can rectify with this but yup, just a bad day of work because of a difficult boss. I'm sandwiched between a problem between my boss and a client. Neither side is giving way, and now even the big boss knows about it! And guess who gets to sort out the mess? Yup, me. The in-between person who has to appease both sides but technically has no power and can only keep providing suggestions. I wish I can just say "just f*ck that guy" like my boss did but if everyone did that, who's going to resolve the mess?

That, and I ate ONE PRAWN last week. Bad move since I have a seafood allergy. Face has been bloated for a week and my lips are swollen and dry. I also have had a chalazion for almost a month. The GP said I'll have to visit an eye specialist so I guess that's a few hundred bucks flying away. :/

[Zylinder]

She's going to have a concert in my country but it seems that it's going to get canceled because ridiculous reasons like ...
- She's an agent of satan (this is because she worship a statue in concert lol)
- She's a part of Israel's evil scheme to destroy a certain religion
- She's a bisexual
- There is a problem with the way she dressed and stuff. So far this is the only logical reason but she agrees to tone it down so it shouldn't be a problem ... .

The worst is, now these idiots is also trying to get the concert producer arrested.

That sounds a lot like Malaysia, actually. I've lost count of how many singers they've forbid from entering the country or cancel out their shows when they've got everything ready - just because they do something that's perceived as anti-religion and/or obscene. And since their 'obscene' gauge hits max the moment someone wears a dress with cleavage... Yeah, they've got an issue with everything.

Point in fact, they recently banned a Singaporean ballet troupe for 'indecent tutus and tights'. I mean, what are they supposed to wear - a sack!?

[HikkiPanda]

F to the P to the I

Edit: I don't think it's a good idea to post this thing here. Sorry. Just... ugh...

BINGO!!! now i'm curious what did you post before you edited it lol

That sounds a lot like Malaysia, actually. I've lost count of how many singers they've forbid from entering the country or cancel out their shows when they've got everything ready - just because they do something that's perceived as anti-religion and/or obscene. And since their 'obscene' gauge hits max the moment someone wears a dress with cleavage... Yeah, they've got an issue with everything.

Point in fact, they recently banned a Singaporean ballet troupe for 'indecent tutus and tights'. I mean, what are they supposed to wear - a sack!?

my deepest condolences to Malaysians .. seems you have it harder than us >.< ... man I wish my ancestor didn't land on Indonesia .. they should've gone further and land of singapore instead >.<

[jeje]

@Hikki: Cuma ngomongin mereka hampir membunuh temen aku. Dan salah satu supir yg ketauan nyuri malah ngancem ngomong kalo dia anggota si idiot itu, ngomongny sok bgt, ngancem bilangnya mau jarah n mer...kosa gadis2 di rumah itu. Polisi juga cuma ngangguk2 aja, kaya anjing dikasih makan bistik.

Please don't translate this. I think it's not appropriate to post something like this here. I just want to rage on it sometimes. And, you know, political issue.

[Dollywitch]

I'm still struggling to recover. of course everyone says just leave it for a while but that's easier said than done. I've always had trouble coping with this kind of treatment and it's only gotten harder as it keeps happening again and again. People just treat those with mental illness like trash.