sorry, but they do sound very young (and on that one guy's part, very unpleasant - if I were a rape victim I would MUCH PREFER that he stayed far away from me!
). I'm basing my statements on boys I talked to in university, and on large discussions on the issue on the somethingawful forums. Something Awful is not exactly the most polite place in the world, but they generally boil down to be fairly sensible after they make a few gross jokes.
The university conversation started because someone who believed the bit about "if she tells me this, it means she will only ever see me as a friend" was complaining that ALL of his female friends had sprung rape stories on him, and he was getting pretty fed up with the rest of the world for inflicting so much shit on girls and ruining his chances with them.
Sadly, realistically, a very high percentage of American girls have had at least SOME kind of unwanted sexual advance made on them. Most of them, I believe, haven't gone as far as 'rape', but they still leave issues. However, even if you meet a girl who HASN'T even been groped, touched, flashed, had her pants pulled down in public, or otherwise sexually humiliated, she will still probably have SOME emotional problem somewhere that needs dealing with.
People all have problems.We fixate on rape a little too much in modern culture sometimes. Yes, rape can be horribly traumatic. So can having your boyfriend blow his brains out while he's on the telelphone with you. (No, this did not happen to me.)
Whenever you get into a serious romantic relationship with someone, you're going to have to face their demons at some point...
